Time for the Sex Talk

As promised, the series in 1st Corinthians has some dicey sections that need to be addressed before we gather this Sunday. The next sub-series in 1st Corinthians is all about biblical sexuality. There are numerous potential land mines in this section of scripture so I want us all to be prayerful and open about what God might teach us through this series.

Sex is a big deal and we’re going to have to tackle some of these topics bluntly. We will not be sexually graphic in what we have to say, but there are some topics that cannot be adequately addressed without being direct, because the Bible is direct.

Over the next five weeks, we’ll be covering these topics:

1. Marriage and Sex

2. Divorce and Remarriage

3. Sex and singleness

4. Sexual Identity

5. Sex and culture

There are two main concerns I have going into this series. My first concern is to not inflame lustful desires in our hearts as we talk about sex. Sometimes talking about sex, even from the Bible, can cause sexual desires to stir up in our hearts which can lead to lust and sin. I want to avoid that. Song of Solomon 2:7 warns us to “not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.” So please guard your hearts and prayerfully prepare yourselves for worship, asking God to help you maintain pure thoughts.

My second concern has to do with children. As many of you are aware, we recently graduated our 4th graders to the main gathering, and they’re going to be hearing a lot about sex. I want you parents to be aware of this so you can help prepare your children for worship.

If your kids are in the 4th grade or older, they’ve almost certainly talked about and heard about sex from their friends. Our desire as a church is for God’s word to instruct them about sex before corrupting views get the chance. If they grow up with a healthy understanding of sex, they’ll be better equipped to recognize the deceit and emptiness of the world’s message about sex, body image, and so on.

So parents, let me start the bluntness right here and now. If you have a fourth grade or older child, this is a good time to start talking to them about sex. Start with the positive, explain to them that sex is God’s idea, sex is good, and sex is for marriage between husband and wife, and that’s how God creates children. Continue having this conversation with them over the next couple of weeks, because towards the end of this series, we’ll be talking about homosexuality and other deviations from God’s design. And we will be blunt about this.

As the parent of a fourth grader (who will be listening to these sermons!), please know that we have put much prayer into this series, and our presentation will be appropriate for kids of this age.

Our ultimate hope for this series is that God will give us a biblical view of sexuality that will cultivate purity and holiness; that you will “glorify God in your body” (1 Cor 6:20).

Some helpful resources:

1. Article about talking to your children about sex: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/sexuality/talking_about_sex.aspx

2. Book about biblical sexuality from Denny Burke: http://amzn.to/1wjCmNp

See you Sunday!

Michael

 

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